Nelson Mandela said, “Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.”
That basically is what unforgiveness is. It holds all of the pain that you want to be rid of tightly in place inside your body, your heart and your soul. It keeps the poison inside of you, while you are hoping it will kill the ones who wronged you or harmed you. It will never empower you. It will never set you free.
Forgiving is Healing. Forgiveness is your passport to freedom. Forgiveness opens the door for true transformation and restoration in your life. It allows you to let go of your past (pain, failures, mistakes, wrongs) that was watered, fed, relived, edited, and nurtured by you. You have the right to let go, release, and be free from the past that did not serve you, that haunted you, that kept you in small places that did not restore and heal you.
Forgiveness ends the cycle of abuse. Yes, you are abusing yourself when you hold on to resentments and unforgiveness. Letting go is the way to go.
How do you let go? Well there are many ways to let go. I teach a process of letting go, forgiving and reclaiming your life. You can do this alone or you can get help. But for you to be truly authentic and on purpose with your life, you must forgive. Forgive so you can heal. Forgive so you can experience a life of joy.
Ask yourself, Is this thought serving me? Is it life restoring? Is thinking about this experience making my life better or worse? If it is making your life worse, release it. Take the high road.